Selection of a partner:
The choice of a partner should be the
one with the most "Taqwa" (piety).
The Prophet (SAW) recommended
suitors see each other before going
through with marriage. It is
unreasonable for two people to be
thrown together and be expected to
relate and be intimate when they
know nothing of each other.
◾The couple is permitted to look at
each other with a critical eye and not a
desireful one. This ruling does not
contradict the Ayah which says that
believing men and women should
lower their gaze.
◾ The couple, however is not
permitted to be alone in a closed room
or to go out together alone. As the
hadith says "When a man and a
woman are together alone, there is a
third presence i.e. shaitan.
◾There is no dating or living in
defacto relationships with each other
before they commit to each other
seriously.
◾There is to be no physical
relationship before marriage.
◾The romantic notions that young
people often have, have proven in
most cases to be unrealistic and
harmful to those involved.
◾We only have to look at the
alarming divorce rates to understand
this point. e.g. the couple know each
other for years, are intimate, live
together and so on yet somehow this
does not guarantee the success of the
future marriage.
◾ "Romance" often dies out very
quickly when we have to deal with
the real world.
◾Unrealistic expectations often
contributes to problems within
relationships.
◾It is better to focus on compatability
of the couple and critical evaluation
than solely physical attraction.
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