How To Win Hearts - The Islamic Way

How To Win Hearts - The Islamic Way
SMILE
It is the first arrow and the fastest of them all. It is like the salt for
food. It is also regarded as a kind of worship and alms-giving as
mentioned in Hadith "Smiling at your brother's face is as charity
(Sadaqa)". Sahaabah reported about the Prophet (Peace be up
on him) saying that they had never seen someone smile at the
other's face more then as the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up
on him) used to do.
The Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up on him) said: "Do not ever
waste your good deeds, even by meeting your brother with a
frowning face." Your smile for your brother is sadaqah.[bukhari]
BE THE FIRST TO GREET
This arrow is the one that lets you to be in the inner most depths
of the others hearts. This arrow needs a skilful shooter. The
needed skills are the hearty smile, the warm shaking of hands
and the friendly welcoming to the other. Being successfully
achieved, such kinds of skills are going to be rewarded, referring
to the Hadith: "In greetings, the better is one who initiates greeting
the other". You will not enter Jannah until you have Imaan (firm
faith) and you will not attain (complete) Imaan until you love
one another. Shall I not show you something by doing which
there will be love between you? Make salaam common amongst
yourselves. (Sahih Muslim)
EXCHANGE PRESENTS
It has a strange charming affection that captivates all senses.
Hence, exchanging presents and gifts in different occasions is a
pleasant habit however gifts should be within one's tolerable
expenses. Prophet (Peace be up on him) told us that giving
presents increases love among Muslims.
He said also: "Shaking hands removes hatred and exchanging
presents enhances love and ends enmity."
SPEAK WHAT IS NECESSARY
Loud voice and chattering are bad merits. You have to be sweet-
worded, tender in expressing yourself. Concerning this merit, The
Prophet (Peace be up on him) said "The good word is a charity (is
a Sadaqa)." If the good word has its own magic in winning the
hearts of your enemies how powerfully it would work then with
your brothers' hearts!! Whoever guarantees me the protection of
the part between his two jaws (i.e. tongue) and that which is
between his thighs (i.e. private parts), I guarantee for him Jannah.
(Bukhaari and Muslim) Prophet's (Peace be up on him) said:
"Nobility of manners and taciturnity are the best of manners that
people are ever characterized by."
BE A GOOD LISTENER
It is to listen patiently and never interrupt the speaker, as the
Prophet (Peace be up on him) never interrupted a speaker till he
ended his speech. And he who fights for this merit gains others
love and admiration, whilst on the contrary is the one who
chatters and interrupts the other.
APPEARANCE AND DRESSING WELL
You have to be careful with your appearance so as to be neat,
well-dressed. The Prophet (Peace be up on him) says that Allah
(SWT) loves beauty to be in everything.
BE KIND AND HELPFUL
Good treatment you classifies you as an obedient, beloved slave
of Allah (SWT) as the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up on him)
says: "The more you are in (real) favour of others, the more you
are beloved by Allah (SWT) " as Allah (SWT) says in the Quran: "
And spend of your substance in the cause of Allah (SWT) and
make not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction; but
do good; for Allah (SWT) love those, who do good" (2:195)
Every good deed is sadaqah (an act of charity). (Bukhaari and
Muslim)Whoever provides ease for someone who is burdened
with debt, Allah will provide ease for him in this world and the
Aakhirah. (Sahih Muslim)
BE GENEROUS
Offering money is the key for most of the closed doors that
hinder you from reaching others hearts, especially in these days.
Some people behave stingily as if they see the ghost of poverty
waiting to attack them once they think about being generous in
offering money i.e. not the behaviour of the Muslim. Sadaqah
(the giving of charity) wipes out sin just as water extinguishes fire.
(Tirmizi)
EXCUSE SHORTCOMINGS
Keeping an eye on others behaviour is a bad merit that blocks
your way to their hearts. On the contrary is to have a good
opinion of them. So, try hard to give your brothers the excuse as
much as you can. Allah (SWT) told us that if someone hurt others
then he or she would have to ask for forgiveness from the
person as well as from Allah (SWT) in order to compensate the
mistake. The Muslim who conceals the faults of another Muslim,
Allah will conceal his faults on the Day of Qiyaamah. (Sahih
Muslim)
BE HONEST AND EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS
If you loved someone or felt good feelings about them, don't
wait, just tell them at once. Regarding this, the Prophet (Peace be
up on him) said: "If you felt the brotherly love of Islam towards
any, you should immediately go and tell him about your
feelings." He added "It is the way relations are to be strongly
indicated". Such love is to be blessed by Allah (SWT) , if it is
purely for Allah (SWT)'s sake, not for any other personal affairs
such as seeking high position, money, fame etc. Unless this love is
for Allah's (Saw) sake, it is a fruitless kind of brotherhood then.
Moreover, Allah (SWT) says: "Friends on that Day will be enemies
one to another, except Al Muttaqoon (i.e. those who have strong
faith and deeds)." (43:67) I enjoin upon you truthfulness for
indeed truthfulness guides towards virtue, and virtue certainly
leads to Jannah. (Bukhaari and Muslim)
BE SOCIABLE
It is the art of being social. Here, a kind of misconception could
exist between sociability and hypocrisy. Could you differentiate
between the two meanings? The difference between hypocrisy
and sociability is that sociability is a desirable legal behaviour in
order to improve either life on earth or religion or so as to
improve both by sacrificing the worldly affairs, while hypocrisy
aims at sacrificing religion for the sake of the worldly affairs.
The Prophet (Peace be up on him) said: "Being sociable is as
alms-giving."
The Muslim who visits his sick Muslim brother in the morning,
seventy thousand angels pray for his forgiveness until the
evening, and if he visits him in the evening, then seventy
thousand angels pray for his forgiveness until the morning. And
he will be granted a mansion (for it) in Jannah.(Tirmizi)
Rasulullah [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] was asked about the
deeds which lead most of the people into Jannah. He replied,
'The fear of Allah and good manners.' (Tirmizi)
Family ties are suspended from the Arsh (Throne of Allah). It
proclaims: Whoever upholds me, may Allah (SWT) keep good
relations with him and whoever severs me, may Allah sever His
relation (of mercy) from him.(Bukhaari and Muslim)